For Today --


... we first took to ourselves.


We may do something that we do not want our partner to know,

perhaps something that puts us in a bad light. If we lie about it, what do

we gain? Our secret may be safe, but we have put another brick in the

wall that prevents us from having an open intimate relationship. Our

white lie does not protect our relationship, it damages it. By chipping

away at our self-respect, we also damage our relationship to ourselves.

Before long we become suspicious of others, believing that they also

are not as they say, or that they are manipulating us.


By this process we project the infection in our soul onto our partner. If

we believe he or she is manipulating us, perhaps we need to face our

own manipulation. Our partner may have defects, but to help our

relationship grow, we first look to the only one we can change, and that

is ourselves.


-- from a Today’s Gift from Hazelden




The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile,

nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to

one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing

to trust him with his friendship. 


-- Ralph Waldo Emerson




Think about your honesty with your partner. Can you improve your

relationship by clearing up a misleading message you have given?


-- The More We Find in Each Other


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